So, I am
here once again with my new blog and hope you will find it interesting. I am
here with some of the conclusions about girls so as to help the boys understand
them and overcome their hesitation. That’s quiet true that understanding girls
had been one of the toughest task in the universe but boys c’mon it’s the time
to show them that they are not the most complicated one. We guys are quiet
aware of what they think, feel and want. Of course we cannot say a particular
thing regarding the whole of the community as their thinking, attitude and
state of mind varies every soul to soul. So, one should never judge anyone with
preconceptions because of someone else’s behavior.
Lets start
with the first encounter, or say a meeting with a stranger. Usually it happens
either in malls, classroom or parties. These are the main spots where you
usually encounter with an unknown girl and fall for her ;-). It happens to
almost everyone, so here is nothing to worry much about it.
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In
such encounters there are two types of girls, the one is a bit inferior and the
other one is bold enough to interact soon. Now, the problem is that how you are
gonna sort out who belongs to which cateogary. No worry when Adi is here. It’s
not at all a big deal.
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The
inferior one or the one of the first case will be a bit uncomfortable with the
new people around her. She would prefer being alone or with someone known. Most
of the time she would prefer looking downwards or will engage herself being
alone.
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So, the first thing in this case is that she
needs to be made comfortable. No, don’t approach her directly. She would find
it cheap. Better try to get noticed by her in a formal way and try to be close
to her that is in her sight range.
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In this case, you need to be patient and
gentle as these girls are really complicated. They don’t usually express what’s
there in her mind and heart, and what they want. It’s not a childish play to
understand them.
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You should start talking to her in a formal
way in the beginning and thus try to make her comfortable with your company as
this is a new and unknown place crowded with strangers.
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Try
to create a wrap of trust and comfort around her. This is gonna a make her feel
special for you and of course now you have created an image of yours in her
mind and heart.
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But let me tell you, it should not be fake,
because playing with someones emotions. I consider it unforgivable sin, so be
honest with what you do.
Now, here comes a bit difficult task. That’s exchanging numbers.
Not a big deal. After a certain comfort level and spending almost an hour with
her you can ask her for any brief contact info so that you can be in touch
with her (not physically guys ;-). Please get me in a right way :-)). But
remember one thing that you must ask her in humble manner by asking her whether
she is comfortable with it or not. Otherwise ask her to leave it. Most probably
the response will be positive.
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When
it is a case of college or school, never be that fast. For exchanging numbers
have a smooth conversation and spent time with her for at least a week or a
fortnight, then only go for exchanging numbers. That will not be too long
because you are going to build up a healthy relationship.
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If
the girl is of the second type, that is bold to enough to interact easily.
These girls are not that uncomfortable in making eye contacts with strangers,
so better try to make some last longing and without much dealing approach her. Be
confident during conversation.
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When
it comes to conversation, don’t go much formal. When few jokes (make her
laugh), praise her looks, that’s gotta be enough to impress her.
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Share
some talks, offer her to spend time together either going to canteen (In
college or school) or go for a walk(if possible) and try to make out the stuffs
that she wants to talk and so this is gonna hit her exactly and then she will
be a little bit yours.
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Share
your contact information. She is not gonna hesitate much sharing her contact
info.
Now here comes the next stage when you need to extend your
relationship and gain her trust.Below are given some simple steps and hints.
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The
main motto is to make her comfortable with your company so don’t pace up.
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Try
to share her every silly talks and try to get into her life slowly by talking
about her families and personal problem.
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Encourage
her likes and appreciate her in every field wherever she needs you.
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Gain
her confidence by being at her side while addressing a crowd or a bulk.
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Try
to make out with even the silliest point that she is making out.
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Hold
her hands when she is scared and console her when she loses her confidence.
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Try
to spend most of your time with her talking to simple things which gradually
moves to intense talks.
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Be
patient, as girls ke nakhre bahut hote hai. So, guys you need to be a bit patient.
She argues a lot, that’s true but you need to stay calm and patient as on the
other hand she is sweet too.
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Anger
usually spoils relationship, so you should try to not to let it in.
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Understand
her every simple needs, be with her now and then as she chose you and let you
into her life. Never distrust her but I am not telling to trust her blindly as
she may blind fool you.
Now, let’s
come to some of the activities or prank that girls usually do and find it to be
funny and say somewhere romantic.
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They
usually carry a signature name for you like stupid, duffer, idiot. By using this
they doesn’t really mean this, they just feel good to tease you with such
petnames. They also use this exclamations like “Ok baba” and else.
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When
you both are alone, they carry a mysterious smile that you can’t really percept
what they are thinking of.
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While
talking on phone, there will occur a short silence after every few minutes
intervals and they will respond with a silly laugh and say “Once again we are
out of talk J.” It happens with almost everyone of you.
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Girls
have got a habit of pinching you somewhere or tickling your hair which you
might hate as I do. But these are the way by which they show their love <3.
Sometime even boys do this like pulling their cheeks and hairs.
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They
hit you or punch you like a supergirl on a much stronger shoulder as compared
to their tender hands but that is once again not rude. That is really sweet way
of expressing the care and love for you.
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And
after arguing for a long while when you agree with her and apologize they show
a princess attitude like “I am always right “ or “You could never win over us”, these are not
because of her attitude, it’s just that she finds it to be sweet of herself and
they feel great from inside.
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They
want to be cared everytime even in the simplest of the situation and to be
loved whatever situation may be.
Do’s and
Don’t while proposing:
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It’s not a guide how to propose. I have just tried
my best to bring you to the safe side.
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Never
propose or share your intense feeling via SMS. Keep this in mind as many of you
must have did this mistake. The mere smilies that are preloaded in your mobile
phone or messengers are not enough to make someone understand you emotions.
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Arrange
a meeting with her in a less crowded place and a calm one. Say her everything
what you feel holding her hands and looking directly into her eyes. This is the
safest side.
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I
am damn sure that it’s not gonna be that easy for a girl to answer at the moment
if she really cares even a bit for you. This will be a very complicated
situation for her.
As I told
you earlier that I am not here to tell you the ways of proposing, I am here
just to help you.
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Do
not propose a girl in front of crowd who is sensible and not much good with
strangers. You need to understand her likes and dislikes. Few also feel pleased
while being addressed in front of crowd
while some may b nervous and react unexpected. So, be on the safe side.
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In
case of college or school, never hurry as your relation may be spoiled. You
need to make her totally comfortable with her and win her heart. Take atleast
2-3 months for being in a safe relation with a simple and complicated girl.
Now, there
are many types of after effects of proposing someone. Few of them are blessed
with positive response and the few others get their life messed up.
So, here I
am describing few of the after effects or say results of these love stories.
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In
few of cases there are few who are lucky enough and get their love in the first
attempt. They are lucky enough for this. All they need is to be maintain a
healthy relationship further.
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In
many of the cases the response is not positive. No need to worry for this, one
should not confine their life to any particular one. Keep trying to gain her
trust and love and may be soon you will be able to make her fall for you.
Otherwise, lead your life happily and move on!
Even in the
negative response, there are many types of negative responses. I have already
mentioned the straight one but there are few more.
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Some
responses are like “We are just friends and I had never thought about this.”
Now this may be true on some part and may not be in other cases. It depends on
the relationship and bond that you share.
If both of
you are sharing just a formal relationship (mind the word “formal”) then she might be true but in other cases where you are
very close friends and you think that she is also liking you, then it’s not
your fault. The main cause of this is that she is confused and thus she sorted
the matter in a straight forward manner. But do not misinterpret her.
After this,
if she is not interested in talking to you and is showing negative response in
every attempt then she must be true that she just preferred the normal
friendship. But if she is still insisting to talk to you and is making you
realize that she wants you and need you as a friend rather than a boy friend then
be damn sure that she is confused about you. Neither she wants to lose you nor
she wish to be in a relationship, then give her sometime. Continue your
friendship and show your love and care towards her. Of course she cares for you
but she is never going to express it. You need to understand her. Slowly may
you both turn into everlasting couple. Remember, it’s not the same everytime,
sometimes luck does matters.
There is one more case that is not much
different to the above discussed. Just the differences that, she doesn’t
really wanted you in that way but she must had been yours bestie. She would for
sure not prefer renouncing you, she would still try to continue the good relationship
that you once shared. Continue your friendship because it’s not that easy to
find a good and true friend for yourself.
But you have
expressed yourself to her, so now she will observe you every moment and your
behavior towards her. May be if she find is to be true and feel that you would
make her a perfect match, then may be sooner or later she would also fall for
you and you will share a good relationship and strong bond may be forever.
Finally
after all this, I just wanna tell you something. Even I am not just sure
whether this is the correct way or not (written below) but this is the reality
that I found out.
It is said
that silent speaks a lot but let me tell you, one needs to understand this
silence. Girls are never good at understanding you (most of them) until and
unless you make them understand. Guys need to show the care and love that they
have towards her as she would never be able to understand this by her own.
And the last
case is where she is already engaged up with someone else. Not a big issue. Try
to convince her and express the love and care that you have towards her. If she
will be able to understand you and see u as her mate then she will prefer to be
with you otherwise leave her. Don’t force her into anything, let
her decide what’s good for her life cause finally it’s her life not yours. Life
is not meant to be confined for someone. Live yours life happily and let her do
the same, that’s it.
Note: Guys it is larger than expected
s I couldn’t include many more things. So I will be back with its next part
soon with more details and some more facts that will let you understand each
other well.
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